When does issues with children become the fault of the parents instead of schools and popular media. I don't understand this disconnect. If your boy child is lazy and overly competitive in school to the point where he doesn't see the point of working hard. That's not because he's a boy. It's because that's how you, his parents, taught him how to be a boy. I'm not overly competitive. Though I'm not particularly feminine, but I hold more to the "feminine" co-operation learning style. So, I say teach your boys co-operation, sharing work, and thought. Tell your boys they are smart, and to treat people well, and stop using pop culture as a scapegoat. RAISE YOU KIDS!
Under educated and therefore under employed males scare me. Young men are easily led and undereducated young men even more so. If more balance is not achieved in education, we will eventually have an easily manipulated and resentful cadre of young men ready and willing to do anything some charismatic leader spouting some ridiculous and dangerous philosphy cajoles them to do. Nazi Germany is a good example of what happens in these situations. I think a good way to start addressing this situation is to encourage young men to go into the teaching profession and try to get a better gender balance within the profession. We have managed to lift up the female population, at least within academia, and now it is time for a concerted effort to do the same for the males. We must do whatever it takes to rectify this situation before Canadian society becomes even more polarized. Historically, angry young men have been much more dangerous to societies than have angry young women. Beware of ignorant and angry young men as they will cause havoc eventually.
As a professor of psychology who has taught the Psychology of Gender for the past 15 years, I really enjoyed this article. However, it's a shame that the authors wait until more than half way through to specify the nature of the problem, as well as the possible reasons. This isn't a gender problem; it's a gender by race/class problem. Upper-middle class boys are still going to university; it's the lower class boys and, in the US, African-American and Hispanic boys who do not. The question now becomes: why not? Father absence is huge factor. Boys who are not actively involved with their biological fathers — or a father figure — don't do as well at school as boys who live with their dads. We may not be sure why but one thing is clear: this is a family and social problem not a problem with the schools or the media. The solution is to help fathers stay engaged with their sons, perhaps with more enlightened social policies that recognize a father's impact on his children.
I have been working on this since 1993 when I noticed the leveling off of men entering college and Females surging ahead. My learning theory will show how our individual environments do greatly affect thinking, learning, motivation to learn, and mental/emotional health. This is a brief excerpt from my learing theory on the Growing Male Crisis. The complete paper to all on request at mayfieldga@bellsouth.net
High layers of mental frictions are one reason Males are falling behind in society and even internationally. The nineteenth century belief "Males should be strong" has left open a window of Free Aggression toward Males from birth onward (aggression allowed upon Males that is considered inappropriate toward Females). Such Free Aggression toward Males may have seemed necessary in the nineteenth century where the physical world and its ruthlessness played a greater role in society. However, in the information age, Free Aggression today is having detrimental effects upon the mental, social, emotional, and academic growth of Males. This aggression given Males not only creates high layers of mental frictions it also creates the Male ego or defensive cushion developed from a young age designed to protect Males that aggression they receive. High layers of mental frictions and the Male ego or defensive cushion impedes and even isolates many Males from much valuable, interpersonal and various mental, emotional, and social and other needed supports that over a period of years add up to a large deficiency for Males.
The nineteenth century belief Males should be strong, also held "Females should be protected”. For many Females there is indulgence along with various continuous social supports from society from an early age onward. This indulgence provides an expressway of interaction for accumulation of much mental, emotional, social, and academic support and learning over time. Today, the two influences of Free Aggression toward Males and over-protection for Females along with various supports from society have created collectively high layers of mental frictions for Males and collectively low layers of mental frictions for Females. Males are collectively beginning to fall behind academically and will later fall behind economically. Females are beginning to use society's protection and societal support for greater opportunities of mental and emotional growth. In the future, the glass ceiling for women in business will fall and the Males will be on the outside.
It is incorrect to view the Male Crisis on role models. The lack of role models is the result of the problem, not the cause. If you had a bag full of sand with a hole in the bottom, you would “not” say there is less sand in the bag; you would say there is a hole in the bottom of the bag. Indeed, we should fix the hole in the bag by providing Males with tools to develop long-term, mental/emotional stability so they can better compete mentally and emotionally in the information age. One professional was attempting to find more role models for Male children. He boasted that a Male child’s esteem goes up when they have one positive role model. What he was unknowingly saying was that Males have such little attention that when they do receive that attention, they are very grateful. This creates the large rise in esteem. The fight for attention could be creating misbehavior in Male children.
In society today, men are given love, honor, respect, and support or the essentials of their self-worth based on achievement, money, power, status and image. They must fight through the still present, nineteenth century confrontations allowed by society upon them from an early age to achieve those benefits and feelings of self-worth. Since women are given through overprotection, even indulgence, the benefits of love, honor, respect, and continual support, all of the benefits of self-worth from an early age without qualification (simply because they are girls), they are working with much continual support, attention, and interaction to accumulate more continual mental, emotional, social, and academic knowledge and skills that can be transformed easily into money, power, status, and image. Even after this society’s protection, continued support and view toward beauty and charm continually helps them in the information age.
The above article is only a small part of my overall learning theory that has applications other than explaining the Male Crisis. It provides us with tools to help teachers, students, and parents learn how to approach their lives more delicately and differently to continually improve thinking, learning, motivation, and mental/emotional health. These tools are essential to help end the Male Crisis and also help release everyone from the horrible myth of fixed intellligences which leave effort as the only variable. It will go to all on request. I do not know how much will be accepted in this format. The full article with graph and Figure will go to all on request.
men and women can be accomplished in accordance with their effort and ability, not based on gender. Thanks for the article
men and women can be accomplished in accordance with their effort and ability, not based on gender. Thanks for the article
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